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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #285 on: Jun 9th, 2007, 11:59pm »

Sorry things are not going well, Sarah, and hope things get better soon.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #286 on: Jun 10th, 2007, 12:08am »

Thanks.
It's just...can't they put themselves in my shoes??
I mean, COME ON!! They MUST remember a LITTLE of how excrutiatingly painful it is to be 14. I think I DESERVE to have a little fun ONCE IN A WHILE...they already totally bashed my Friday night...and then I go to a party...having a good time...my dad drives me home at ELEVEN....there was a 5TH GRADER staying longer than me...ALL my friends were staying...they ALL offered me rides...some of my friends I hardly ever get to see!!
It was soo....EMBARASSING...and they've done this so many times before!!!!
Jesus Christ.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #287 on: Jun 10th, 2007, 09:32am »

Aww, I'm sorry about that. My parents used to do that too - I went home before everyone else and then I got to hear everything fun that happened the night before.
The only good thing that can come out of it is that once you try to convince your parents to let you stay out a certain time you could tell them how early you've been home before and how you've always been on good behaviour. It worked when I turned fifteen and wanted to stay out a little bit longer because all I did was say that they'd force me home at 10.30 for two years and I hadn't made a fuss about it (well, not a BIG one anyway ) so I deserved to stay out a bit longer.
If you're going over to your friend's house or something, maybe you could have your parents call your friends' parents and ask if his/her mom/dad can take you home instead. That way you might get to stay out longer and they won't call you and be worried every twenty minutes.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #288 on: Jun 10th, 2007, 11:54am »

Thanks for the advice.
One of the annoying things though....my friend's parents offered to drive me home!! They even offered to let me stay at her house overnight!!!!!! He still made me come home!
I probably should try not to make a big deal out of it, be mature, but...it's HARD!
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #289 on: Jun 10th, 2007, 11:59am »

on Jun 10th, 2007, 12:08am, mrs.jacknasty wrote:
Thanks.
It's just...can't they put themselves in my shoes??
I mean, COME ON!! They MUST remember a LITTLE of how excrutiatingly painful it is to be 14. I think I DESERVE to have a little fun ONCE IN A WHILE...they already totally bashed my Friday night...and then I go to a party...having a good time...my dad drives me home at ELEVEN....there was a 5TH GRADER staying longer than me...ALL my friends were staying...they ALL offered me rides...some of my friends I hardly ever get to see!!
It was soo....EMBARASSING...and they've done this so many times before!!!!
Jesus Christ.


Gah..I've had that happen to me too recently ..except I had my mum actualy come in to the bar the party was at and try to get me out... Terribly embarassing,I understand your pain.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #290 on: Jun 10th, 2007, 12:33pm »

Thanks guys. It makes SUCH a big difference just to know that other people have been through similar stuff...misery loves company.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #291 on: Jun 10th, 2007, 12:38pm »

on Jun 10th, 2007, 11:59am, Jkgllnhll wrote:
Gah..I've had that happen to me too recently ..except I had my mum actualy come in to the bar the party was at and try to get me out... Terribly embarassing,I understand your pain.

That must be embarassing...my mom used to call me all night if I was somewhere...that´s not so bad but in some point it gets to your nerves. But my ex came to one party to get me out of there and started almoust a fight overthere...so that was tooo much!
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #292 on: Jun 10th, 2007, 5:07pm »

My mum hates me. She was offending me because of my eating disorder and pointed out that it makes her angry. She even called me a bitch between the lines (to explain it in my words) and blamed me for my misbehavior.

I've decided to leave out family dinners for the next couple days. I'll be coming home after 8 o'clock in the evening and do my homework at Starbucks.

I feel kinda threatened... don't know, it's just awful.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #293 on: Jun 10th, 2007, 5:15pm »

Woah, your mom has no right to be mad at you because you have an eating disorder. If my mom would've been mad at me when I hurt myself it would've upset me so bad because that means they can only see how it's affecting themselves and not you. I'm sorry to hear that and I hope it gets better for you!
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #294 on: Jun 10th, 2007, 8:01pm »

Sarah, Nemi, Ryan, I've had the same problems as that. It's so embarrassing, isn't it?? I was out a couple of weeks ago with some friends in town and even though I was 16 at the time (I'm 17 now), I got an angry phonecall at about 8:30pm and told to get the 9pm bus... 9... I was very annoyed. I am perfectly old enough to look after myself, let alone the fact that due to the summer months it wasn't even dark yet. My mum had even said a few days before when I was at college "When you're on your holidays it doesn't matter what time you're home, but you've got college the next day so we've got to be a bit more strict", which is fair enough. But 9pm is unreasonable for a 16-year-old, it really is.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #295 on: Jun 11th, 2007, 8:35pm »

Ugh. Yesteday, my parents gave me a huuuuge grounding...basically cut me off from the rest of the world.... I think I'm gonna diiieee....thank GOD I had the good sense to hide IHJ from them! They would have found that too....and of course, my dad, being the lame person he is, is a computer programmer...so he knows how to cut off IM, Email...EVERYTHING......argle.

But Loose, lookie, don't listen to ANYTHING your mom says!!!
It's SOO not your fault you have an eating disorder, it is completely awful of her to bitch at you.
Do you have someone you can talk to or eat with or whatever? You should find somebody to confide in...

Anyways...I'll speak for everybody at IHJ when I say we're here for ya. A girl in my play last year had an eating disorder...it was really scary and...dissapointing, but it hurt HER the most, not US. Just remember like...your eating disorder is YOUR problem, not your moms, so you should be doing things to help YOURSELF, you know?
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #296 on: Jun 11th, 2007, 11:06pm »

Recently I found out that I made the swing choir at my school which is a choir of about 14 people who sing pop songs. A lot of people try out for that choir and everyone wants to be in that choir because the people in it become so close and get to sing so much more than the other choirs. My friend has always wanted to be in that choir and tried out this year but didn't make it.
The thing is, the more successful I am in my singing, the meaner she gets with me, the more she puts me down, and the more she pulls away from me. Not that I was ever able to really talk to her or tell her any of my secrets, but we used to be kind of close and y'know, best choir buds.

I really miss having close friends. This year I feel like I've lost so many friends, either due to just not being able to see each other anymore (which is largely due to my not being able to ask people out because of my deathly fear of rejection, but they could ask me places too) or because I've just become so much more introverted.
I'm hoping that this coming school year will be a lot better with the swing choir, and I'm hoping that I'll be able to become close to the people in my choir like years before.


Another thing that depresses me, which became very evident when I went out with my swing choir on Saturday, is my inability to function in social situations and my inability to attract a male. Is there something wrong with me? Am I hideous? Am I really boring? Am I intimidating?
I just don't know what it is, but I've never had a boyfriend and no one has ever liked me, with the exception of one person, but he had a girlfriend he really didn't like, who lived on the other side of the U.S. and I was his only friend. It was bound to happen. Plus we aren't friends anymore. (another lost friend) I just don't understand. I see all these other girls that don't really seem appealing to me and don't flirt and aren't girly at all, are totally introverted and they've had multiple boyfriends.
I don't know what's wrong with me.


Sorry it was so long. I like to elaborate and write long sentences that don't need to be long.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #297 on: Jun 12th, 2007, 08:40am »

on Jun 11th, 2007, 11:06pm, RaHoSa wrote:
Recently I found out that I made the swing choir at my school which is a choir of about 14 people who sing pop songs. A lot of people try out for that choir and everyone wants to be in that choir because the people in it become so close and get to sing so much more than the other choirs. My friend has always wanted to be in that choir and tried out this year but didn't make it.
The thing is, the more successful I am in my singing, the meaner she gets with me, the more she puts me down, and the more she pulls away from me. Not that I was ever able to really talk to her or tell her any of my secrets, but we used to be kind of close and y'know, best choir buds.

I really miss having close friends. This year I feel like I've lost so many friends, either due to just not being able to see each other anymore (which is largely due to my not being able to ask people out because of my deathly fear of rejection, but they could ask me places too) or because I've just become so much more introverted.
I'm hoping that this coming school year will be a lot better with the swing choir, and I'm hoping that I'll be able to become close to the people in my choir like years before.


Another thing that depresses me, which became very evident when I went out with my swing choir on Saturday, is my inability to function in social situations and my inability to attract a male. Is there something wrong with me? Am I hideous? Am I really boring? Am I intimidating?
I just don't know what it is, but I've never had a boyfriend and no one has ever liked me, with the exception of one person, but he had a girlfriend he really didn't like, who lived on the other side of the U.S. and I was his only friend. It was bound to happen. Plus we aren't friends anymore. (another lost friend) I just don't understand. I see all these other girls that don't really seem appealing to me and don't flirt and aren't girly at all, are totally introverted and they've had multiple boyfriends.
I don't know what's wrong with me.


Sorry it was so long. I like to elaborate and write long sentences that don't need to be long.



Congratulations on making the swing choir! Now that's atleast something positive.

I shouldn't be too worried about "not" functioning in social situations. I've experienced kind of the same. I can't meet larger groups of people, they terrify me and even if I'm really close to all of them I shut myself in a little shell and don't speak at all. And it's always like this when I meet new people too. I just can't open myself and start talking. I can't even make prank calls, because I'm too shy and I find it too embarrassing to talk to someone I don't know.
I am also very sure that there is quite a few males having an eye for you, you just don't notice it. Especially when you're a bit insecure in yourself it's hard to notice other peoples attraction in you. Trust me... I've run around with boys kneeling in front of me and I didn't even notice. I was too busy feeling concerned for my looks. Do I look ok? Will anyone EVER like this? Am I funny enough? Should I play it safe and just smile a little or should I actually go on and talk about this subject that I find really interesting and know alot about? Why would anyone find this interesting..?
Not untuil years later, when it is more or less too late and those guys already have the sweetest girlfriends I stop and I ask them if there's something I should change, if there's something that bugs them and why everyone finds such sweet girlsfriends and why I can't be like those girls they really grab me shaking me senseless telling me "Are you nuts girl? Open your eyes! I've been totally crazy about you the last 3 years but you never noticed?!"

So come on. Loose a little bit, chill out and open your eyes. Don't be afraid of what you'll meet, because it will be positive. And the world doesn't end if you wouldn't find that tomorrow. You're still so very young. You've got a whole lifetime to find it.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #298 on: Jun 12th, 2007, 2:20pm »

Aw.. Thanks!
I don't really mind the guys not liking me as much I mind the not really having any friends.
The last time I had a best friend was in second grade and then her mom made us have some big fight.. not fun..
And I hate not being able to function in social situations, but I'm hoping that being in the swing choir will kind of force me into being a bit more social, like throwing someone in a cage full of tigers would force them to defend themselves.. >_>

But anyway.. Thanks for reading my pity party.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #299 on: Jun 12th, 2007, 10:02pm »

This is really more complicated than I could explain. We all make online friends but I got to chat with one a lot that you have only seen here a little. Usually funny, creative chat and we exchanged pics u don't see here, just to know one another better I guess - family and friends stuff. I don't expect I will ever actually meet most of you in person but he lived "10 minutes away" from an airport I fly into once or twice a year (to visit my father's wife and my father's grave, another sad story, I'm afraid). So there was a small chance we would actually meet one day.
A family health crisis means the family is leaving the country to go home (don't wish to explain this) and he has to go to. The subject line on about a dozen pm exchanges here was cowboys in ref to some chats we had. He left on his last message he didn't know when he would ever be able to get a computer and get online again. The personal message on his msn/messenger chat id is "Thinking of my Cowboy" so I see it whenever I sign into messenger. I'm thinking of my cowboy, too.
so long, cowboy
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