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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #45 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 4:32pm »

*BIG HUG* to nellie, too. That's just awful....... But it's just a matter of time, someday you'll be able to enjoy singing again.


*hugs everyone* tomorrow will be another day, may it be a better one......
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« Reply #46 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 4:56pm »

Thanks you all for the kind words *big hug* it means more to me than you can imagine... it's just that... the more miserable your life becomes, the more you start seing who your friends really are; 'cause most don't know how fast to get away from me now I'm not doing good.

If any of you need support, don't hesitate to message me. I don't cut, but I've had friends who did. It's not weird, it's almost common.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #47 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 5:01pm »

on Jun 27th, 2006, 4:56pm, Nell wrote:
Thanks you all for the kind words *big hug* it means more to me than you can imagine... it's just that... the more miserable your life becomes, the more you start seing who your friends really are; 'cause most don't know how fast to get away from me now I'm not doing good.

If any of you need support, don't hesitate to message me. I don't cut, but I've had friends who did. It's not weird, it's almost common.


I feel the same thing. Most of my (best) friends have no idea whats going on in my life. And it feel like they don't want to know
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« Reply #48 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 5:09pm »

Sometimes it might be that the people near you truly don't want to get involved, but many times it's just that they don't know how to approach you because they don't have the experience in having to deal with the issue. So, I suggest that if you know who your true friends are you talk to them. It makes it easier for both sides.

And I'm not directing that to anyone specifically, but all of us. It's a simple thing but sometimes we forget to look things from other people's point of view, too.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #49 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 5:16pm »

on Jun 27th, 2006, 4:32pm, joolimer wrote:
*BIG HUG* to nellie, too. That's just awful....... But it's just a matter of time, someday you'll be able to enjoy singing again.


*hugs everyone* tomorrow will be another day, may it be a better one......


Thank you! That means a lot.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #50 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 5:30pm »

on Jun 27th, 2006, 5:09pm, joolimer wrote:
Sometimes it might be that the people near you truly don't want to get involved, but many times it's just that they don't know how to approach you because they don't have the experience in having to deal with the issue. So, I suggest that if you know who your true friends are you talk to them. It makes it easier for both sides.

And I'm not directing that to anyone specifically, but all of us. It's a simple thing but sometimes we forget to look things from other people's point of view, too.


Thnx for your words! I know that your right, but sometimes it's hard to talk to people. I mean talk about very personal things.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #51 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 5:38pm »

I know, sometimes it's the hardest thing to talk about personal issues and let yourself be vulnerable. But it's truly for the best, the worst thing is to not talk about these things at all. I have experience and it's not good.....
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« Reply #52 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 5:40pm »

That's probably true! In some cases when other people have problems I don't know what to say, either... but I have friends literally avoiding the question "How are you?". They keep ranting about their amazing lovelifes and I'm just sitting there, thinking 'You could at least ask how I am so I can lie about it to comfort you...'

But I guess everyone deals with things differently!
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« Reply #53 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 5:45pm »

on Jun 27th, 2006, 5:40pm, Nell wrote:
That's probably true! In some cases when other people have problems I don't know what to say, either... but I have friends literally avoiding the question "How are you?". They keep ranting about their amazing lovelifes and I'm just sitting there, thinking 'You could at least ask how I am so I can lie about it to comfort you...'

But I guess everyone deals with things differently!


Yeah... I guess it is so.
But it's kinda annoying.. But it is sometimes hard to talk about it to.
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« Reply #54 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 5:49pm »

on Jun 27th, 2006, 5:40pm, Nell wrote:
That's probably true! In some cases when other people have problems I don't know what to say, either... but I have friends literally avoiding the question "How are you?". They keep ranting about their amazing lovelifes and I'm just sitting there, thinking 'You could at least ask how I am so I can lie about it to comfort you...'

But I guess everyone deals with things differently!


Yeah, we're all different in that matter, too. But some people are also so mentally blind, they just can't see if there's something wrong with a person. I don't think you can improve that, though, you either are sensitive in that way or you are not. And, well.. the people who are able to feel and sense obviously hurt the most, too. But that's just how we are... different.

You can always interrupt your friend, though. Lol. But anyways. There's always someone to talk to.... for example the internet is a pretty great thing.
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« Reply #55 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 6:01pm »

Oh, and I'm not very good with giving advise either. I can only contribute what I've personally felt about an issue. For example lots of my friends have had guy issues lately and I'm just a damn question mark when it comes to those things. Haven't had much experience in that area, so all I can really offer is a pair of ears and an unbiased mind. But I know that's a lot. Sometimes there's no need for words. It's good that people have lots to say, but it's good to know how to listen, too. I really hope everyone here has at least one person who can be that silent partner when needed. And of course vice versa.
Damn, I got a bit carried away but that's all I had to say, anyways.

BTW Riotgirl, I just viewed your avatar in its original size and I literally gasped. It kinda made my day, so adorable.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #56 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 6:14pm »

on Jun 27th, 2006, 6:01pm, joolimer wrote:
Oh, and I'm not very good with giving advise either. I can only contribute what I've personally felt about an issue. For example lots of my friends have had guy issues lately and I'm just a damn question mark when it comes to those things. Haven't had much experience in that area, so all I can really offer is a pair of ears and an unbiased mind. But I know that's a lot. Sometimes there's no need for words. It's good that people have lots to say, but it's good to know how to listen, too. I really hope everyone here has at least one person who can be that silent partner when needed. And of course vice versa.
Damn, I got a bit carried away but that's all I had to say, anyways.

BTW Riotgirl, I just viewed your avatar in its original size and I literally gasped. It kinda made my day, so adorable.


You must be a good friend! And your right about everything you said. But for me it's difficult to practice that all sometimes.
(I can't say a lot here, no details and advice. Just because i can't express myself that good in english )

And nice to hear that picture kinda made your day!! It's an awesome pic
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #57 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 6:34pm »

on Jun 27th, 2006, 08:27am, Katie wrote:
This is so weird... last night I was watching Donnie Darko, and it got to the end where the plane engine falls into Donnie's room and he dies... I bawled my eyes out! I couldn't stop crying for about an hour afterwards. It's weird because I've seen it hundreds of times before and I know what happens, but for some reason I couldn't stop crying. It sounds really pathetic And I guess it doesn't help my down mode at the moment

Now I really do sound like a whining brat, sorry.

*hugs everyone*


That's not pathetic... I cry for the weirdest things. Before I never cried at sad movies with real people, but I bawled my eyes out at Disney animations, and I still do. I'm a little better at crying at "normal" movies now, though. For example BBM. I used to think I have no feelings because most "normal" sad things never made me cry. One time I was reading a comic where Donald (Duck!) won a running competition. They were so happy in the comic I cried at THAT. It's unbelievable. I'm lucky to not having had anyone close to me die. My grandparents have passed away but I was never that close with them. I remember when my dad told me my grandfather had died, I just said "Oh." or something like that. I'm sure it had some kind of impact on me afterwards but I just didn't cry. On the other hand, I cried for days when our dog died. But he was very special to me so that's why. So, I'm happy to have done that, makes me feel I'm not completely abnormal.

Anyways. If we cry when we're not "supposed to", I think it means that we have something we've "hidden". I know I have lots of things inside me that I should just holler out. I rarely do, but when I cry for "no reason" I think it's just releasing some of the pain subconsciously. All I'm saying is that any crying is good...

And wow, I didn't know I had so much to say. It shows that I haven't discussed these topics for a while. Partly because of my low self-esteem I think my opinions are bullshit. That I have no right to say what I think about an issue. But I know that's what the real bullshit is....... and I'm trying to learn.

There are people here who think they are "nothing". Often I think that about myself, too. I wonder why it's so common. But I'm going to continue to tell myself otherwise and whenever I feel a bit better about myself I'm going to tell others that they can do it too.. no one's nothing.

And dammit, I sound like a preacher. I just want everyone to feel better, including myself.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #58 on: Jun 27th, 2006, 6:42pm »

on Jun 27th, 2006, 6:14pm, Riotgirl888 wrote:
You must be a good friend! And your right about everything you said. But for me it's difficult to practice that all sometimes.
(I can't say a lot here, no details and advice. Just because i can't express myself that good in english )

And nice to hear that picture kinda made your day!! It's an awesome pic


Yeah, it's sometimes so difficult to express yourself another language. But it's all good.

What's so great about this place is that if we feel like sharing what's bothering us we can do that, but we can also just ask someone for a hug, hehe.

And yes, the pic is awesome!
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #59 on: Jun 28th, 2006, 06:33am »

on Jun 27th, 2006, 6:34pm, joolimer wrote:
That's not pathetic... I cry for the weirdest things. Before I never cried at sad movies with real people, but I bawled my eyes out at Disney animations, and I still do. I'm a little better at crying at "normal" movies now, though. For example BBM. I used to think I have no feelings because most "normal" sad things never made me cry. One time I was reading a comic where Donald (Duck!) won a running competition. They were so happy in the comic I cried at THAT. It's unbelievable. I'm lucky to not having had anyone close to me die. My grandparents have passed away but I was never that close with them. I remember when my dad told me my grandfather had died, I just said "Oh." or something like that. I'm sure it had some kind of impact on me afterwards but I just didn't cry. On the other hand, I cried for days when our dog died. But he was very special to me so that's why. So, I'm happy to have done that, makes me feel I'm not completely abnormal.

Anyways. If we cry when we're not "supposed to", I think it means that we have something we've "hidden". I know I have lots of things inside me that I should just holler out. I rarely do, but when I cry for "no reason" I think it's just releasing some of the pain subconsciously. All I'm saying is that any crying is good...

And wow, I didn't know I had so much to say. It shows that I haven't discussed these topics for a while. Partly because of my low self-esteem I think my opinions are bullshit. That I have no right to say what I think about an issue. But I know that's what the real bullshit is....... and I'm trying to learn.

There are people here who think they are "nothing". Often I think that about myself, too. I wonder why it's so common. But I'm going to continue to tell myself otherwise and whenever I feel a bit better about myself I'm going to tell others that they can do it too.. no one's nothing.

And dammit, I sound like a preacher. I just want everyone to feel better, including myself.

I used to cry all the time at Dumbo and Fantasia! And you don't sound like a preacher at all! You're a good person Just like everyone else here, because everyone understands everyone else and is never nasty.

I think my opinions are bullshit too... whenever I talk to anybody I usually get ignored or put down for what I think... I've learnt that it's better for me usually to keep quiet.

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... but I have friends literally avoiding the question "How are you?". They keep ranting about their amazing lovelifes and I'm just sitting there, thinking 'You could at least ask how I am so I can lie about it to comfort you...'

Same, here -- I know what you mean. And even when my friends ask how I am, they just ask as if they don't really care, y'know? I mean, don't get me wrong, I love my friends to bits and they are good friends, but they get a little wrapped up in their own world sometimes and leave me out of it.

I can't say that I'm glad that someone else cuts here... but I'm glad that someone else can understand. My friends will definitely think me a nutcase if I ever told them
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