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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #585 on: Apr 12th, 2008, 12:31am »

bleh.. It's hard to not let it get me down. Honestly, I've only really liked about three people in my life including this guy. Either I'm really picky or I just don't know that many guys. And it's not that I'm one of those girls who only likes guys for looks and I think that's why I've only liked such few people. I only truly like someone once I really know them and love their personality. Actually, with this guy, I saw him in a play and thought he was amazing and that started it all. He's not really what you'd call the most handsome guy in the universe though..
Tonight he was in a play again and afterwards he invited me to eat with the cast.. so once again he's sending some positive signals but I don't know. I had a good time.. Oh! and now my friends are trying to get him to ask me to my choir banquet.. which I don't understand how that's going to work out. I don't want him to think I like him, because that brings up an opportunity for him to reject me.. and I'm too afraid of rejection. I want him to come after me if this is going to happen. I don't want the first move to be from me. So this situation isn't really depressing anymore, it's more an anger at my friends now. I told them I didn't want them to ask him, but they're just relentless. Plus I don't dance and I know he'd make me dance, but I don't want to. It's just bad all around, except for the parts where he shows an interest.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #586 on: Apr 12th, 2008, 01:09am »

I understand what you're saying about it's hard to not let your guard down. Of course it it. The only thing I can really say is it sounds like you are trying for him. If he likes you, he'll come to you. He won't want you being the one to ask all the time. I'm so sorry that this is happening to you because you seem like a sweet girl and I understand what you mean by maybe it's just because I'm not around a lot of boys. When you're not around them all the time or every once in awhile it makes the ones you like a lot harder to not think of them in that way. It's hard to see that they wouldn't want to be with you. All in all keep your head high, and just do what you think is right for you. In the end that's all that matters. How you feel, what you want, what you deserve. And I don't mean that in a selfish way I just mean it's okay to focus on yourself and what you want and how to get there. I know I wrote a lot I just hope this works out for you like I said earlier!
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #587 on: Apr 12th, 2008, 06:01am »

Raquel,

Nothing is more frustrating than to be treated the way you are. But try to be honest and ask yourself the question "Am I not showing too much that I truly love this guy?". He probably likes you too, otherwise he wouldn't have invited you to be with him on many occasions. But he's certainly not ready to be involved in a relationship yet. Girls are much sooner ready for this than guys. Young men usually need more time. And those who will never be ready are playing with girls' feelings and break their hearts.
If he's not like that.... may I give you the following advise.
Give this guy the space and time he needs if you want him to be the one who comes forward. Don't stay focused on his every move and distance yourself from him for a while. Maybe without knowing you are pushing him back. As DiCaprio said... if he likes you, he'll come to you. And if he doesn't, than it was not meant to be and you deserve far better. He may be a big flirt after all. Time will tell.

You seem to be a sweet girl Raquel, I wish you all the best.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #588 on: Apr 12th, 2008, 12:35pm »

I really don't think I'm showing it.. Other than the fact that I talk to him when he's around. Trust me. The only reason other people assume this is because he's really the only guy that I talk to that isn't assumed to be gay or asexual. I've had another male friend before and everyone thought I liked him too. And one time I made another friend and people thought I liked him too. Apparently people think I like anyone I meet and am friends with.
I don't talk to him unless he comes up to me and I've never invited him to do anything. If we pass in the hall I'm never the first to say hi, and I'm like that with everyone. Like, I don't see what anyone is seeing on my part. Trust me.. I hide and bottle emotions very well when I'm in public, so I don't see what they're seeing.

And what my philosophy was, was that I kind of push him away on many occasions. If anything, he might think I don't like him. And I think it's a psychological defense on my part.

But thank you guys for listening to me. I really don't have friends who I can talk to about this.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #589 on: Apr 12th, 2008, 6:05pm »

Anytime hun! If you need someone to talk to, I'm here for yeah!
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #590 on: Apr 14th, 2008, 10:00pm »

the weather is depressing. gonna be below freezing again tonight. they promise spring later this week
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #591 on: Apr 14th, 2008, 10:40pm »

^Yeah same here. It's been raining and snowy everyday for the past two weeks it's getting old.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #592 on: Apr 15th, 2008, 06:28am »

We should have nice sunny weather this time a year. Alas, it's still too cold to lower the heating system. On top of that, when you're out on the streets it suddenly starts raining. Usually, I forget my umbrella so I have to lend or buy one. I have quite a collection already.
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« Reply #593 on: Apr 15th, 2008, 11:18am »

^ You know umbrellas always bug me? You have to close them when you get to the car so you get wet anyway lol.
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #594 on: Apr 15th, 2008, 4:14pm »

on Apr 15th, 2008, 11:18am, DiCaprio11 wrote:
^ You know umbrellas always bug me? You have to close them when you get to the car so you get wet anyway lol.

LOL True, true!

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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #595 on: Apr 15th, 2008, 5:35pm »

I'm really bummed that I'm not going to see my best friend everyday. He's going to school in New York, and I;m going to miss him so much. I'm really happy for him though because he wants to be a director. I hope he gets what he wants, he's incredible.
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« Reply #596 on: Apr 18th, 2008, 10:11am »

I finally started working like a month ago and everything's been going great, I'm getting to learn the shores better and better. But last week I worked with this other girl for the first time, and... infront of her it's like I just CAN'T do ANYTHING right. Like, if I've done great all day and she comes in for the afternoon shift it immediately starts going bad. It's almost scary.
I think it's because she's been doing it for ages, is a pro and so frikkin quick! She stresses me to the point where I get all insecure and do everything wrong.
She's the sweetest person, but I just feel like such a looser infront of the customers. I much rather someone yell at me that I'm doing it wrong than having someone pity me and try to cover it up with sweet and false words. When we worked together today it went a bit better though, which might have something to do with this super cute guy who put me in such a good mood when he came in and flirted with me, lol. But still, I fear the days when I'll have to work with her...
Meh, enough rant. Atleast they're nice, one of the other girls even invited me to hang out with them next saturday. So yeah, enough rant
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #597 on: May 8th, 2008, 11:51pm »

sometimes waiting to hear from someone in particular can be a little depressing, especially if u think it is rather overdue. oh well
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Re: Feeling depressed?
« Reply #598 on: May 20th, 2008, 11:02pm »

sick, tired, bored
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« Reply #599 on: May 21st, 2008, 11:06am »

An e-mail is on its way Rich! Sorry for the long wait.

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