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Re: Your sexuality?
« Reply #30 on: Feb 6th, 2007, 5:07pm »

This is what I got on Allennnd's test thing:
Straight Preference
You scored 23 (-52 being completely gay, 0 being bisexual, and 52 being completely straight)
You are not exclusively heterosexual, but you prefer the opposite sex over the same sex. While you might be willing to fool around with the same sex to some extent, you would go all the way with the opposite sex. If you are sexually inexperienced, it is possible that this could change after you do some experimenting.
with the opposite sex. If you are sexually inexperienced, it is possible that this could change after you do some experimenting.



I like their idea of a spectrum, cuz I feel like that's TOTALLY the way it is, you can be gay, straight, bi, and then be bi, but prefer girls or guys or whatever. People just don't seem to get that!

But...I don't know. I've never been attracted to a girl, and it doesn't really appeal to me, but I guess I can't say I would be grossed out if it did happen, so...
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Re: Your sexuality?
« Reply #31 on: Feb 6th, 2007, 5:23pm »

on Feb 6th, 2007, 5:07pm, mrs.jacknasty wrote:
But...I don't know. I've never been attracted to a girl, and it doesn't really appeal to me, but I guess I can't say I would be grossed out if it did happen, so...

Hey, you'll probably enjoy hearing this but this statement sounds a lot like the statement Jake said while filming Brokeback Mountain. He said he wasn't attracted to men but if it ever happened he wouldn't be afraid of it.
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Re: Your sexuality?
« Reply #32 on: Feb 6th, 2007, 5:49pm »

on Feb 6th, 2007, 2:00pm, Clain wrote:
I'm straight, I love men. I used to like older, or my age only but now I like younger men too.

I like women as friends but not the bitchy ones - there are a lot about....

I've also got a 'twist' gallinab - I love gay men and seem to get on with them really well because they usually don't have an ulterior motive and are not staring at my breasts as they talk to me! - they are often really good looking, well dressed and sweet smelling


I'm straight I absolutely love men, masculinity is something that doesn't keep me indiferent and I can find myself in what Clain said, gay people are funny and without problem for us, ladies, LOL
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Re: Your sexuality?
« Reply #33 on: Feb 6th, 2007, 6:29pm »

Well here is one no one has said yet...

I like guys. I think they are hot. I drool

I know a hot girl when I see one. But I don't drool over them.

I cannot picture myself having sex with either males or females.

So, I don't have a sexuality!

Guess you can say I am in love with myself only? Asexual.

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« Reply #34 on: Feb 6th, 2007, 7:27pm »

on Feb 6th, 2007, 3:51pm, Allennnd wrote:
Based on this test that I took I'm Bisexual... but I don't know, I don't mind kissing a girl etc., (maybe I would like it) that only thing is that I don't feel nothing sexual about it. On the other hand, I love men (the whole male anatomy... is irresistible to me).

http://www.okcupid.com/tests/take?testid=12680914741600896164

That test is interesting, according to that I'm more homosexual than I am bi. But I guess that's due to my lack of experiences with guys.

I guessed that a lot of you would be straight (don't blame you girls, with guys like Jake about, you don't need women eh? ) To those of you that are unsure/confused.. give it time. This kind of thing can take years to develop, and you might be surprised at which way it turns out. I was surprised with me, anyway, but I felt... relieved, I guess, that something felt right. I'm glad that everyone who's posted so far has an open mind about sexuality, it makes talking about it so much easier! I love you guys to bits, let's just face facts here.

About how to know if someone's gay/bi (I think someone asked?) - I guess that, without being stalkerish, see how he reacts around girls and guys. How does he treat females around him? Is he confident with them, spends longer periods talking with them? With guys, to be honest I wouldn't know. Put it this way, if he can joke about gay issues with his mates, he's either got a) Very open-minded mates or b) Inclined to guys in one way or another. Either that, or ask him. But that might be a little awkward.
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Re: Your sexuality?
« Reply #35 on: Feb 7th, 2007, 03:34am »

Allennd, I took that test a while back too. It told me I was bi... and I pretty much thought "now tel me something I don't know." LOL

And Sarolabelle, have you evre heard of AVEN? If you really consider yourself asexual (or if you're curious about it or whatnot) you might want to check them out. There's a message board where a lot of people there discuss this very issue.

Here's the link if anyone is interested:
http://www.asexuality.org/home/
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Re: Your sexuality?
« Reply #36 on: Feb 7th, 2007, 03:38am »

on Feb 6th, 2007, 7:27pm, Ellie wrote:
To those of you that are unsure/confused.. give it time. This kind of thing can take years to develop, and you might be surprised at which way it turns out.


I think it'll all become clearer to me once I become sexually active - I'm still a virgin and single. And I'm not looking for a relationship, yet at the same time don't want to lose my virginity to a one-night-stand, so that's kind of conflicting. But I feel eventually practical experience will make things clearer. All I know for now is that I find both sexes attractive, but who knows what time will tell? It's kind of strange because for me there's a big difference in the way I feel about guys and girls in a way; I wouldn't want a girlfriend right now, but I would like a boyfriend, yet I'd rather have sex with a girl than with a guy. But I'm guessing those feelings are caused by a need for safety; girls are more farmiliar so it probably feels safer to have my first time with a girl, and the boyfriend thing is probably caused by the fact that that's what everyone would expect and that's what's traditionally called 'safe', you know?

I don't know, we'll see. Time will tell the tale! Thanks for posting this
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« Reply #37 on: Feb 7th, 2007, 10:54pm »

I am not sure as of right now what my sexuality is... I had always dated guys until I was 17 .Then after I turned 17, I fell madly in love with a girl that I dated for 3 1/2 yrs. She was everything to me and I thought I was to her. She treated me really awful the last 1 1/2 yrs we were together b/c she was an insanely jealous person. Her brother HATED me with a passion for no reason, so he was always inviting her over to his house and having girls ( that liked her) over so that she could see who she could be with instead of me. She cheated and broke my heart many times, but I could not stop loving her. When it was good, it was PERFECT, but when she was insecure and jealous about things it was HORRIBLE. She hit me alot, and she was always accusing me of cheating ( when we would go out, guys would hit on me, so she automatically assumed i knew them before that). I tried so hard to make it work but it just didnt. I moved away from CA to TX and then she broke up with me a month after I had left.That whole month though she had diff girls call me and tell me that they had just f*cked, and that we were over with. She treated me as if I wasnt even important, even though we had planned for her to come out and live with me out here. We had planned a whole life together.I had helped her in so many ways, you have no idea the lengths I went for her, and she just acted as if we never loved eachother at all. She ripped my heart in pieces and I literally felt like I could not breathe without her.

So with that said, I find guys extremely attractive, but I cant help to think that women are attractive too. Keep in mind that she was my only same sex relationship, and right now I can honestly say that I would not have a relationship with a woman but I would not be scared if it happened. I dont really believe in labels, so I wouldnt say I am bi, and there is NOTHING wrong with labeling yourself as so if you want to. I believe we fall in love with a person not a gender.

Sorry for blabbing, if you have any questions about anything that I posted feel free to contact me either on this thread or a private one. Thank you for reading this....
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Re: Your sexuality?
« Reply #38 on: Feb 7th, 2007, 11:12pm »

I can't tell you how moved I am by all this. Not just by the incredible story above or the ones above that but by ALL of this. When I first saw this thread I did not think there would be many responses or that people would actually say much about themselves but here are our stories. It tells me that lucky7babe21 has said an important truth: "I believe we fall in love with a person not a gender." That is so true for many of us. I think that was the problem for Ennis, he fell in love with a person but thought it had to be with a gender (of course, the times made the gender thing more important). That was his failure, and sometimes ours too.
Look how many people above are open to whatever happens for themselves and for others. They may feel securely one sexual preference but our not threatened by anyone else. Above is a cross section of society - look at how much some of society tries to deny or suppress this simple truth. I've had girlfriends and boyfriends but I think it is just important in the end to have someone to love.
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Re: Your sexuality?
« Reply #39 on: Feb 7th, 2007, 11:39pm »

Aww, Charrisa, I'm so sorry that happened to you like that. You don't deserve that... you deserve someone who will love you and appreciate all your wonderful qualities. But sometimes we're like that...we can't help but still feel drawn to people that mistreat us because we focus on all the times they didn't. It's good sometimes to be able to look past the bad things, but when there's more bad than good, that isn't worth it. I agree with you and Rich about falling in love with a person, and not a gender... and also that it's important to have someone to love. We should all be so lucky.
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« Reply #40 on: Feb 7th, 2007, 11:57pm »

on Feb 7th, 2007, 11:39pm, BreDigsTheJakeness wrote:
Aww, Charrisa, I'm so sorry that happened to you like that. You don't deserve that... you deserve someone who will love you and appreciate all your wonderful qualities. But sometimes we're like that...we can't help but still feel drawn to people that mistreat us because we focus on all the times they didn't. It's good sometimes to be able to look past the bad things, but when there's more bad than good, that isn't worth it. I agree with you and Rich about falling in love with a person, and not a gender... and also that it's important to have someone to love. We should all be so lucky.


Thank you babe!! You always make me feel better!! I love you

Yea there were more bad times than good after she had been unfaithful. But I dont regret anything because it was an experience, good or bad, it was life. everything happens for a reason and i believe that with all my heart. i love that i have that in my memories to look back at. i grew with love and grew out of love from that relationship, so i guess in a way i am better off this way. thank you for reading it, it was realllllllly long
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Re: Your sexuality?
« Reply #41 on: Feb 8th, 2007, 12:10am »

No prob, hun. ILYSFM. I think you're right about that... we do all grow from those experiences. Like me... I mean, I had a pretty crazy relationship with my ex Adam and he hurt me a lot. But I really loved him, and in a way I still do. He's one of the most amazing friends I have now, and that's mostly because I've changed my point of view on our relationship. When he hurt me before, that wasn't about me... that was all about him and his demons. I was scared of being in a relationship for a long time because of what happened with me and him, but I was also craving a stable relationship because of it. Life's just crazy like that. I'm a firm believer that nothing is ever black and white except old sitcom reruns. Sexuality in particular is not blac and white... it's impossible to lump everyone into two or three categories.

Look at me rambling again... I had only planned on saying you're welcome. LOL
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Re: Your sexuality?
« Reply #42 on: Feb 8th, 2007, 12:49am »

I totally agree with you!! Love and life are not black and white..... i think we all change for the better whether we see it or not. i think with your experience you have grown in some way and you'll have him to thank. i still love my ex even though it's hard to say that. my theory is this: Our hearts are like pies, every once in a while , someone comes along and takes a little piece of that pie and adds some ingredients and it either stays there or the person takes it with them when they exit your life. youll always know that they once were there b/c the space is an emptiness that no one else will be able to fill, b/c that is their spot. Cheesy, yes, i know! but thats how i look at it.
i know that someday i will love someone unconditionally, with everything that i have, again. i just dont know when, but im okay with that.
i do crave a special someone in my life and i understand totally what you mean by that. you are awesome hun

and LOL about the last thing you said.... i do that often too, believe me. when i have a thought i halfta get it out.
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Re: Your sexuality?
« Reply #43 on: Feb 8th, 2007, 01:23am »

I like boys and girls.

I prefer boys... but there's nothing wrong with girls.
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« Reply #44 on: Feb 8th, 2007, 10:47am »

Straight all the way .. But I don't mind people who are gay or bisexual. Why should I? We're all human.
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